It's not ok to live in a home where you feel scared
Imagine yourself at ten years old, being afraid to go home after school. Because home is the scariest place you know.
Loud, angry voices screaming and swearing when mom and dad fight. The sound of bottles smashing against the wall … and the sickening thud of a fist against flesh. And even though you are sick with fear, you have to be brave and strong to reassure your younger brother and sister, and keep them out of harm’s way.
This is no way for a child to live. Which is why Cassie and her younger siblings were placed in our care earlier this year.
But just because you no longer have to live with the violence and abuse doesn’t mean that it no longer affects you.
Cassie was afraid to sleep alone in her bed, and struggled to fall asleep every night. She was constantly anxious about her younger brother and sister … always on guard, ready to protect and nurture them. She wasn’t interested in making friends with the other kids here.
It was obvious Cassie needed professional help to overcome the trauma of her earlier life. She was diagnosed with childhood depression, and began weekly therapy sessions. She is learning how to express her fears and develop techniques to manage them. A big part of her recovery has been gaining the confidence to open up to our staff and tell them how she is feeling.
She has relinquished her role as protector of her siblings and has become more carefree. For the first time, she is able to enjoy the normal activities of a ten year old girl … make friends … and laugh and play with them.
We are so grateful to have this chance to help Cassie recover from her fear and anxiety. But she is not the only child here who needs professional assessments and special therapy in order to overcome trauma that happened in the past. And it’s expensive. R1195 per assessment to be exact!
If you’ve been to the doctor recently, you’ll know that 15 mins in the GPs room now costs over R500. Specialists charge much, much more.
For a child who has grown up with fear and violence, therapy is every bit as important as food or clothes to wear.
Because, unless we get to the root of deep seated emotional problems, these children will battle with mental health issues for the rest of their lives.
It is our duty to help them develop into positive, happy and independent young people. Please help us help them. Thank you.
children deserve to be safe & happy
In a perfect world, every child would grow up in a loving home – with enough food, clothing and opportunities to play and learn.
But it’s not a perfect world.
The Durban Child & Youth Care Centre strives to give children who’ve been orphaned, abandoned, neglected or abused, another chance of a happy childhood. We provide a safe home, all the daily necessities, education and encouragement to help them develop into healthy, well-adjusted kids.
Wherever possible, we work with the family to enable children to return home. Because every child needs a place to belong.
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